Sometimes, you may be with someone, such as your husband or partner, and – yet – you still feel very alone in the relationship. It is possible to be lonely even with you are with someone. This is a very difficult situation to be in, and I, personally, have experienced it more than once in my life. This is often a very serious fork in the road of your journey. Do you stay, and try to make things better? Or, do you decide that it’s time to go?
It’s not always easy to figure out what to do when you’re alone in your relationship.
Evaluate Each Path
Take a good, hard look at both avenues to take. Do you feel that addressing the issue of being alone with your partner will be productive? Is this something you’ve attempted in the past, but with very little results? You may also want to see if it’s worth the energy and emotional turmoil to just cut your losses and end it with him.
Be honest and be realistic when you do this. Creating a pie-in-the-sky kind of expectation may be what got you in this position to begin with, so stay grounded. On the other side of that, don’t be completely pessimistic, either. Balance is key, tempered with authentic truths.
Make a Plan
No matter which direction you take, make a plan for yourself and, if applicable, your partner for the process to work. If you decide to stay, figure out how and when it will be best to have a good old fashioned sit-down with him, as well as how to help bring the two of you back together. If you decide it’s time to break up, create a plan that takes care of you, and, if applicable, your children. Get as many ducks in a row before taking action.
Don’t Remain in Status Quo
Please, for the sake of your own sanity, do not just stay lonely in your relationship. You deserve so much better, so don’t settle. It’s not worth your personal happiness just to not rock the boat. Yes, it may be messy (both paths have their cons, you know), but what you’re living with now isn’t exactly a neat bowl of cherries, is it? Would you rather have a mess that cleans up to a brighter future, or just keep sweeping the same pile of gunk under the rug?
This is about taking care of yourself. So many women are told and taught that we have to sacrifice ourselves, even to the point of losing our own identity and happiness, in order to keep a family together. However, there is an old adage that I prefer to live by: “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!” It’s time for you to get happy.
Have you faced the situation of being alone in your relationship?
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